Sizing Me Up…

So often as women, it seems to be “greener on the other side of the fence” when it comes to body type. I want to talk about this because recently I went through all of my belongings from my past life, including my TINY clothing from a few years back. I can’t lie, there were a few times, going through the garment stacks, that I winced at not being able to fit into a couple of my favorite pieces. But honestly, at this point in my life, I am happier than I’ve ever been and far happier than when I wore microscopic sizes. It is critical to appreciate and acknowledge body type and stop beating ourselves up for a feminine ideal that is so often Photo Shopped. It is a boxing match we cannot win and honestly, life is too amazing to put so much effort toward the comparisons.

J Brand Dark Denim 23s! WTF

Yep. Crazy

Yep. Crazy

tulle skirt, size zero

Milly Silk Dress. Size Zero

I used to spend hours watching Fashion Television when I was 13. This was back when Claudia, Nadja, Linda,  Christy, Cindy, and Carla (the current first lady of France) partied with Versace and George Michael was smoking hot (yes—a very long time ago). Since I was only 13, I thought I would have this huge growth spurt and my limbs would thin out and take off like willowy wild flower stems. Um….no. Didn’t happen. I’m a mesomorph, meaning I have a muscular build.

Bazaar UK Supermodels of the 90's Reunion Cover

In high school I excelled in sports, largely because I had muscle strength, but oh how I still longed to be twiggy. In my twenties, I realized I could manipulate my body type by extreme dieting, deprivation, and working out so often at Lifetime Fitness that even the cleaning crew knew my name.

I came across a photo of my recent self and realized that the muscular build had definitely returned. At first I winced because I adore dancer arms and mine are a bit from barre worthy. But then I realized that I liked my new derriere a hell of a lot better than when my arms were twigs. Where am I going with this? Stop wasting so much time ripping apart your self-worth. Instead, appreciate and take care of what you have.

happier with a little padding

Now, I’m not saying let yourself go. You need to eat clean, exercise and make time for yourself. But your body maintenance shouldn’t be so extreme that it’s bordering on masochistic.

1)   Realize what kind of body type you are: Ectomorph (apple shaped), mesomorph (muscular, tom boy), endomorph (tall and thin) and the 4th type I like to call “LA Actress” (just all around tiny). This seems straightforward, but many women don’t come to terms with their bone structure.

2)   Before you focus on what you don’t like, take a second to list what you do like about your body type.  (long legs, sexy hips, dimples, great neck, gap in teeth aka the Lauren Hutton, Lara Stone, Georgia May Jagger craze, etc).

Georgia May Jagger and her signature smile

3)   Then…slowly call out what “needs some love.” Not “WHAT YOU HATE” but what could use some attention. And take the necessary steps to make this a priority for your wellness.

Love yourself girlfriends! Be on the look out for stylish mom and guest blogger, Susie Rahaim’s next Essential to being a happy, healthy mother: Exercise. Carpe Diem! Chelsea


  1. Doreen says

    I really loved this article because it made me rethink how I look at myself and be realiztic and grateful for what I do have that I like about me:) TY!

  2. Michelle Charles says

    This is excellent–So many women waste years of their lives trying to be skinny. I think it plays with their minds – food deprivation cannot be good for you and I believe it causes depression–it certainly depresses me. I am approaching 60 and my body had suddenly made some serious changes – It didn’t ask me about them! I am in the process of changing my wardrobe to more dolman sleeves and longer tops and I am embracing my fuller breasts (far cry from the days when I didn’t even know what cleavage was)
    I am enjoying my wine and my chocolate and my friends. I am not saying that I will stop working out or being careful not to Pig out, but I am going to stop being so hard on myself and enjoy life. Girls you should enjoy life too –be proud of yourselves and Chelsea is right. Embrace your body type and live your lives.

  3. Asheaon says

    Wow. This was truly amazing. I am going to share the HECK out of this blog post! I am so inspired and I have to say, you look outstandingly beautiful RIGHT NOW.

  4. says

    This blog is so dead on… it’s so refreshing to hear this point of view. I’m still trying to lose the baby weight but am trying to not feel badly about myself as I do so!

  5. amie nogrady says

    I came to terms with my muscular thighs when I named them, as odd as that may sound. Not only did i dub them “Fred and Wilma” I also remind myself of the amazing things that my thighs in all their juicy goodness can do for me.

  6. Dee Beltran says

    I have never laughed so hard reading this article well maybe when the kids do something they shouldnt be cause at this point in life why scream I laugh. But i loved the jeans size23 great so dead oon really I bust my butt at the gym now but I look and feel great at this stage of my life then when I modeled and fit in size2 . Seroiulsy I am still the skinniest when I take my daughter to Daisy troop but I am a size 6to 8 and have never felt and look better. My husband agrees with me and doesn’t want me to lose any more weight or be the way I used to be Love this article thanks for making my dad.

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